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Avoiding Love to Avoid Hurt

Have you ever had friends with which you knew you had to address a touchy issue but you avoided that love by avoiding the hurt it would no doubt cause them & yourself?

Maybe this friend had a drinking problem, a problem of sexual immorality, or even worse than these they had an ego problem that caused them to esteem themselves & their plans above God & His plans.

Even though this problem was the invisible elephant in the room you & others avoided it, perhaps hoping it would go away on its own or justifying it by saying “well everyone has their faults, who are we to say anything about this?”  As your brothers’ keeper to help a brother even when it hurts him & yourself is the truest expression of love.

 

          A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. – Proverbs 17:17


 

Maybe as we begin to address these issues with our friends, they will strike back, accusing us of being mean or harsh.  Perhaps they will try to claim we are jealous, jealous of the very issue we are trying to address with them.  If we are to be jealous let us only be jealous that they aren’t giving all the glory to God but taking some to themselves in their pride.

Real love hurts when it is applied to real situations.  But when real love is accepted it is an extreme blessing to all involved.

For real love to work, pride, arrogance, & falsehoods must be laid aside. 

Think about your own life. The people who have had the most profound influence in helping build your character into an honorable one; have probably been those who were straight with you.  Dancing around an issue is not very loving, either from the person who should address it or to the person with which it should be addressed.  Instead, if we leave it alone to avoid the hurt, we leave our friends; we leave our brothers to be walking wounded.

 

 

          Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends. – John 15:13

 

So, then can we say that it is love when a friend is willing to be hurt for & by his friends for their own good?


 


 

Flattery & back-patting doesn’t help a friend in need, but only love.  We sometimes avoid love so as to avoid hurt.

 

By Roderick on 2006 Mar 9 - 09:12 | Hamartiology | add new comment | email this page | printer friendly version | 1241 reads

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